Making changes can be hard, and often scary, even when we know we’re changing for the better. Today I’m going to share with you a few things I’ve learned about how to make it easier.
Note: Sometimes, especially when we’re going through hard times, we may feel a bit lost and unclear on what we want. If you currently feel like you know more about what you don’t want than what you do want, you might want to check out my post How To Figure Out What You Want In Life for some tips.
When it comes to making significant changes in our lives we often get overwhelmed by the bigness of the change. We’ve got this misguided idea that we need to achieve total transformation overnight or in a week or a month.
The thing is, almost all big changes are really the result of a bunch of smaller steps. (TWEET THIS)
Let me give you an example…
Let’s say someone wants to quit their boring and stressful job and become a world traveling freelance photographer.
That seems like a pretty big and risky change, right?
But they don’t have to quit their job tomorrow and buy a camera and a plane ticket.
They could do that. Depending on their resourcefulness, the amount of money they had saved, and a variety of other factors, they might actually be able to pull it off. But it’s probably better to prepare a little bit first.
What Are The Small Steps?
Instead of taking a giant leap into a different life, you can make a list of steps you could take to achieve what you want.
(If you aren’t really sure what steps to list, you might want to put research as your first step and make list of steps as your second step.)
For our example person who dreams of becoming a world traveling photographer, let’s say they’re currently a hobbyist. They take pictures frequently with their digital camera and/or phone. But they’ve never sold a photo.
Here are some possible steps:
- research ways to make money from photography
- start implementing those ideas if you can (perhaps start sharing your photos online and selling prints?)
- research professional cameras and photography
- buy a professional camera
- start taking photos with it in your spare time
- keep learning about improving your photos and earning money from photography
- start learning about traveling the world
- plan your first short travel adventure
- put in a request for your vacation time at work
- go traveling and take a bunch of photos
- increase the money you are making from your photography
- repeat these steps until you are making enough money to quit your job
- quit your job and become a world traveling photographer
Take One Step At A Time
Sometimes breaking things down into smaller steps will make you feel overwhelmed, because of the number of steps involved. In this situation you need to remember that you can only take one step at a time.
What is the first step?
What step(s) can you take TODAY?
What about this week?
What steps can you take care of later?
Focus on what you can do today or this week and try to put the rest out of your mind for now.
This Also Works For Smaller Changes
Breaking things down into smaller steps works for our smaller goals as well.
What are some things you’ve been wanting to do that you can make a very small change to achieve?
Do you want to be healthier? Try taking a walk once a week or buying healthier snacks.
Want to spend more time with your friends? Maybe you can have lunch with them once a week or get together every other weekend or once a month for hang out days.
Been wanting to learn how to play guitar/scuba dive/cook/manage your money/paint/etc.? Sign up for a class, buy or borrow a book, or watch a how to video online.
The key here is to keep things EASY.
You may want to work out three times a week, but if you haven’t worked out in years, it’s probably going to be hard to jump right into working out three times a week, and even harder to stick with it once the initial thrill of accomplishment wears off. Starting with only once a week won’t be as tough and once you’ve integrated it into your routine, you can bump it up to twice a week, and then three times.
Making a few small changes can really help boost your mood and help you take control of your life. Just take one step at a time and you may soon find your life is a whole lot better than it used to be.
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